You're like a child

You're like a child
Ask me to write you a song
Never give me a damn
There are lots of pain in me will start over again
They'll start again, they'll start again, they'll start again

Writing song is easy
Describing you is hard
Worry that once I write
The persistence that I have for wanting you
All will be dug out by you
All will be dug out, All will be dug out

Decision was made
It's no way to turn back
It's clear to myself
There are lots of pain in me, will start over again
They'll start again, they'll start again, they'll start again

To decide is easy
Waiting is too hard
Worry that once I wait
All the maturity and sedateness learned throughout the years
All will be dissolved, All will be dissolved, All will be dissolved

Working hard is easy, making money is difficult.
Having an affair is easy, maintaining family is difficult.
Loving you is easy, getting along is difficult.
Decision is easy, but waiting is always hard.

You’re like a child
You’re like a child
Ask me to write you a song
You’re like a child

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Myth of Lilith

According to Jewish folklore, Lilith was the first wife of Adam.  She was created at the same time and from the same earth as Adam.  She was banished from the Garden of Eden when she refused to make herself subservient to Adam (specifically, she refused to get into the missionary position with him during sex).  When she was cast out, she was made into a demon figure, and Adam was given a second wife, Eve, who was fashioned from his rib to ensure her obedience to her man.

Lilith's existence as a historical person depends on a reading of Genesis 1 apart from Genesis 2. The woman created as Adam's equal in Genesis 1 is said to be Lilith and the woman created subservient (from Adam's rib) in Genesis 2 is said to be Eve.

According to the myth of Lilith, she left Adam because he insisted that she submit to him. She spoke the Divine Name and gained such power that she became an angel, but when God told her to return to Adam, she refused and became a demon. She is cast as the epitome of the evil seductress who works in league with Satan to torment and destroy Adam's offspring.

Lilith is not mentioned in Genesis because insinuating her presence overthrows the biblical picture of Adam and Eve living close to the Creator in Paradise. This paradise was lost due to disobedience of God's command given to them 'not to eat', not because Lilith refused to take the missionary position with Adam.

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Moment of Truth

The term 'Moment of Truth' was coined by Jan Carlzon, who managed the Scandinavian SAS Airlines. He used the term to mean those moments in which important brand impressions are formed and where there is significant opportunity for good or bad impressions to be made.

Moments of Truth often happen when they are not thought to occur, in odd interfaces with staff and moments with products. First impressions are often critical moments. When customers have certain expectations and they are disappointed, then they can form very negative impressions or feel a sense of betrayal that sends them into destructive desires for retribution.

There are two fundamental ideas behind the use of Moments of Truth in management practices.

• The elimination of all UNNECESSARY Moments of Truth – everywhere.
• The repeatable delivery of Moments of Magic for each Moment of Truth that cannot otherwise be eliminated.

 What are Moments of Truth in Process?

From the process perspective, Moments of Truth exist anywhere the customer touches the process or the process touches the customer. Any contact with the customer – any contact – is a Moment of Truth.

Identifying, eliminating and improving Moments of Truth can be a daunting task for many organizations. It requires an organization to move away from the ingrained internal perspective to the external perspective – the Outside-In perspective of the customer.

Identifying Moments of Truth will – without a doubt – lead to the discovery that many of our processes are fundamentally flawed. The elimination of unnecessary Moments of Truth will impose change on the organization, although the good news is that the resistance to this change will not come from the front lines. They are already living with the flaws in our processes so removing those flaws will typically be well received and often has knock-on effects of improved morale, loyalty and job satisfaction.

For many managers the story is much different.  The change that identifying Moments of Truth (then challenging them) brings to them will often require a fundamental shift in how they perceive the purpose of the organization, their job function, and their entire way of directing, overseeing and supporting their staff.  While for some managers and executive managers this is a much needed breath of fresh air, for many it is simply one more thing to be discounted, ignored, and tacitly resisted.

If once the Moment of Truth is lost badly, it will be very difficult to make people recover back from this.

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Keep smiling ...

Most of the year are unremarkable.  They begin and they end with no lasting memories made in between.  Most days have no impact on the course of life until we meet someone someday somehow.  When we meet, perhaps it is raining, perhaps it is sunny.  We have the same anxiety, the same enthusiasm.  We smile to each other because finally we meet.  Sometimes, we are eager to meet someone, and sometimes we are avid for meeting someone again, however that someone is so departed that is not able to meet again.

So should we cherish each of our encounter?  Should we be grateful to have the chance to know each other?  And then, we should remember to say "See you soon ……" when we leave. 

Keep smiling when we meet, keep smiling when we depart.

Now I know it has been a while
And people change like passing smiles
Turn their back on all they have said
And promises they have made

Two years have slowly passed us by
Two years that changed both our lives
But one thing still remains the same
That's the promises that we made

"Will you write to me everyday ? Will you think of me everyday ?
When you hear this song on the radio , Will you think of me even more?"

"Yes, I will."

And as your train pulls into view
I catch a fleeting glimpse of you
As you wave to me "Hallo"
Just to say you are home

And as I hold you here tonight
Everything just seems so right
As the radio plays our song
Our love goes on

La …… La ……

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To fulfill by forsaking

There is a kind of affection but without serendipity and there is a kind of fulfillment by way of forsaking.

A person who never want to lost you may not be the one who really love you or loyal to you.  Sometimes it is only a confused mind with strong possessive impulse.  They may do things hurting others without benefit themselves and at the same time take it for granted.  If a person always think that "once I have it, I am not going to let go ever and forever", then this person is only a paranoiac of possession.  Trying to get the eternal assurance of love will only result in further astray.

To love something means to learn how to appreciate it, to cherish it and to make it precious.  To care someone means to let that someone delighted.  Because this person's emotions will bring turbulence to your emotions too.  That's why there is a saying "I feel glad because you are happy".  Loving a person is to let her/him to live in happiness.  This will make the affection more sincere.  If you are not able to do that, then you may have to let go.  Therefore sometimes, we need to learn how to forsake.  Because giving up is also a kind of beauty.

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Apotheosis

Even in this information flooding ages, apotheosis is still going on with stupidity neglecting facts.  Take for an example of Thomas Edison.  Was he a genius inventor or just a greedy capitalist?

You may know that Edison’s dogged determination drove him to try a thousand different filaments before he invented the light bulb.  We often think of this as emblematic of American hard work and dedication. But in truth, Edison was a slob who could not stand to organize his work or perform proper research. So instead of figuring out how to make the light bulb work better, he literally tried everything lying around until he stumbled on the right filament. That is not dedication.   People had been “inventing” the light bulb for about seventy years when Edison came along and made one good enough to mass produce and sell.  Bamboo, carbon, and carbonized bamboo filaments were all used by earlier inventors.  And Edison’s team, notably Lewis Latimer, made significant contributions to Edison’s “achievement.”

But that is not all.  Back then, there was a big argument between Edison and a man called Nicola Tesla about the better type of electricity; AC (alternating current) and DC (directional current). To cut a long argument short, the AC is better the way we use it and we in fact use AC electricity.  But anyway, Nicola Tesla was for AC electricity and proved its power by lighting a lot of streets with one flick of a switch at a World Fair.  Edison was for DC electricity.  To prove DC was "safer" than AC, he electrocuted animals with AC electricity (including an elephant) and "invented" the Westinghouse Chair, an electric chair which used AC electricity. Of course, both AC and DC electricity will electrocute you, there is no difference in that respect.  But Edison was the jerk who tortured animals and people alike to get his point across.

Thomas Edison was a selfish individual and quite a ruthless businessman who fought ferociously to defeat his competitors in the battle of inventions.  Selfishness is nothing uncommon, after all it is human nature.  But the question is, if we take Thomas Edison to a God like inventor and deviate from facts, then we easily neglect that many good innovation development had been suppressed by his selfishness.

In our age, Apotheosis by now should be antique.  A successful business man already got the monetary reward in his life and there is no need to make him become God.  This is because it is hard to measure his way of defending his own benefit is actually promoting innovations or retarding them instead.  This should also apply to Steve Jobs and Bill Gate.

Nonetheless, is a inventor must be a selfish person in order to get recognition?  This may not be the case.  A good example is Benjamin Franklin.  He was also unequaled in America as an inventor until Thomas Edison.  He invented the Franklin stove, bifocal eyeglasses and the lightning rod.  Franklin was not greedy about his inventions, preferring to have them used freely for the comfort and convenience of everyone.  Thomas Jefferson called Benjamin Franklin “the greatest man and ornament of the age and country in which he lived.”

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Everything I do ...

I want you to know how much I love you.  You have given a meaning to my life that I had no right to expect, that no one can ever take from me.  I love you so much.  And I want you to promise me something.  I do not want you to ever worry about me.  And if anything should happen, I am gonna be okay.  And everything is gonna be all right.  And I have no regrets.  And I want you to feel the same way ......

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I am not a nice person

In fact, I am extremely selfish.  I want you to be happy because I can only feel happy when the person I care feel good.

I am exceedingly greedy.  I am not easy to satisfy with relationship that is only barter.  I want something more.  Some bonding that is not able to be bought.

I am remarkably cold.  I would support you to have your own dream.  I do not need to be sticking to each other all the time.  I don't care the detail of everyday life.  Even if we are apart in different places, as long as I believe you are with me then I feel warm and contented.

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Silent whisper, silent tear ...

A better ending for the movie - The 3 Idiots should be:

Having lost contact with Wangdu (taking Rancho's identity to study), who disappeared during the graduation party and went into seclusion, Raju and Farhan (Wangdu's best friend in Engineering College) begin a journey to find him as Rancho.  When they find Rancho's house in Shimla, they find a completely different Rancho. From him they come to know that their friend was in fact only a destitute servant boy "Chhote" who loved learning, while he, the real Rancho, disliked study. The real Rancho's old man agreed to let the servant boy study in Rancho's place instead of laboring. In return, the real Rancho would pocket the qualifications and after graduating, the servant boy has to cease all contact with the school in order not to reveal this secret, especially to people related to Imperial College of Engineering.  Although Wangdu understand this is a very selfish wish of the old man, the old man is still the one who brought him up and he has to keep this secret to repay the old man.

The real Rancho reveals that Chhote (that is Wangdu) is now a school-teacher in Ladakh.  Raju and Farhan decide to tell Wangdu's lover in college - Pia.  And Pia is just going to marry a guy she does not really love.  For 10 years, Pia has not been able to contact with Wangdu.  Wangdu is just like vanished in her universe.  Now she suddenly gets his news from Raju and Farthan.  She have been waiting for Wangdu and delaying her marriage for long last.  As a brave girl, she decides to join Raju and Farthan to meet Wangdu.  She is in great pain and doubts during the journey because Wangdu never approaches her since 10 years.  If he ever loves her, why he disappeared like a meteor in the summer night.

Certainly, Pia never imagines the pain in Wangdu's heart is no less than hers.  After he left Imperial College of Engineering, Wangdu had to fulfill his commitment to the real Rancho's old man that he must not reveal the secret.   Throughout 10 years, in all those sleepless nights, he missed Pia, he wanted Pia.   Especially when nights are long and friends are few, he sat by his window and thought of her.  A silent whisper, a silent tear, with all his heart he wished she were there.    And he prepares his love for her will be brought with him to the grave one day.   In one of the rooms, he puts all her photos on the walls and all the details of how they met and fell in love.

And Wangdu never forgets his friends.  He kept every copy of Farhan's wildlife photo collections.  He constantly reads Raju's blog only that he is bounded by his promise not to contact them.  Wangdu is like an elephant and never forgets.  He still cares for his friends.  And for certain, he never forgets Pia, his first love.

When Pia enters the room and finds the photos on the walls for all the years, she is completely stunned.  With mixed feelings of love, regrets and anger, she runs out of the room and asks Wangdu's assistant, Millimeter to lead her to Wangdu.  Finally, the lovers meet again and when Wangdu knows that the old man died and all the promises could now be released.  The two lovers finally kiss for the first time.

Once in the blue moon, the dreams come true ……

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Don't cry but smile ...

Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.

堪笑一葉飄零，重來淮水，

正是應涼風新發。
 

鏡裡朱顏都變盡，只有丹心難滅。
 

去去龍沙，向江山回首。
 

青山如發。故人應念，杜鵑枝上殘月。

摘自『宋．文文山．酹江月』

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Why beliefs matter?

A simple and direct reason is:  Beliefs, no matter they are with right or wrong result, usually hinder constructive changes that are based on facts. 

Beliefs lead to ideology without factual support will bring unnecessary suffering and disaster to other living organism in the planet.  In past history of mankind, beliefs were mostly religions as Catholics, Christians, Muslims, Buddhist.  Beliefs in modern term also should include all kind of ideology not based on facts.  One example is communism, they believed human nature would be contented to contribute their best and only take back what they need.  So a communist society neglects the brutal, selfish and animal aspect of human beings.  The tragedies of communism execution in Russia, China, North Korea, etc prove this ideology is very much deviated from facts beyond any doubt.

The other example is Environmentalists.  They conceive that climate becomes warmer (still a controversy in science) only because of human activities.  And they are always promoting the idea that Polar bears go to human community to find food is because global warming and the bears do not have enough snow and ice to live on.  They choose to ignore the fact that population of Polar bears increase 2 to 3 times after the 50s because illegal hunting was banned since then.   They see more Polar Bears wondering around is not the result that the bears is starving owing to not able to find food on land without ice covering (this thinking is already quite strange, without ice on the ground, should be much easier to find food for all kind of animals even the Polar Bears).  This is the result of over populated Polar Bears, so many of them need to find food away from their original habitation.  Again, Environmentalists perform what they do best, confusing correlation to causation.

For certain, those who embracing beliefs tightly are Creationists.   Creationists are always asking this question, you have your belief and they have their belief, why some Scientists are so against religion.  The danger of beliefs is that people with beliefs ignore facts and rational thinking.  This attitude perhaps is good for human in ancient time.  It helps to make decision fast no matter it is right or not.  We know that in some life or death situation, fast decision (maybe it is proven wrong later) still get a better chance of survival (when not counting about the quality of survival).  Our genes would not care if we lost both of our legs and arms, as long as we are still able to reproduce and can have descendants, then the survival mechanism (even it causes great pain and suffering) is still a better strategy for survival neglecting the quality of well-being.

The experience of inhabitants in Easter Island could show how the beliefs of dead ancestors lead to cannibalism:

In daily life, we may still utilize belief to facilitate our decision process and to make lives easier.  But we need to be very cautious not to mix beliefs with facts.  Take for an example, we can always choose not to bring one of our friends to picnic because we "believe" every time we bring him along, it rains.  However, we have to distinguish that the phenomenon is just co-incident and is nothing to do with causation.  With this kind of understanding, we can still live happily although we know in our heart that this belief is just a "joke" to make us feel comfortable.  But if this belief is not controlled well, it may lead to sufferings too.  Say, when one day a drought in our area happens, this belief may encourage believers to pull this friend out to attract rain no matter he is willing to go out or not.  If by then, he is not able to bring along any rain, we may even angry with him and think he is not co-operating and terrible things on him may follow ......

After all, there needs not an explanation to everything we don't understand yet.  Could we, human just humbly say that "We don't know the answer yet"?  rather than making up a supernatural creature who has, and is all the answers.  Admitting we don't know should be much better than giving an irresponsible wrong answer from beliefs that are rooted from a primitive evolution misfire in our human mind.

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